Why do people feel the need to tear others down in order to build themselves up? I often ponder this question. Why is it that some people feel it truly necessary to put others down and make them feel small, in order to feel as though they are important or truly matter in this world? Are we not good enough by just being us?
We are so unique and extremely amazing individuals in our own ways. How are some so blind to this blatant truth? Is it their own personal feelings of inadequacy that they feel that they must make up for? Is it how they were raised, not always feeling good enough? Is it not being accepted by others and always feeling rejected?
I just don’t get it! In my opinion it is quite cowardly to hide behind a facade of power and strength. Making others feel small so that you can feel big and mighty is not strength at all. It is not intelligence or power.
Humility and gratitude are where true strength and leadership lie.
There are some true geniuses and masterminds that I will not deny are super impressive with their knowledge and abilities, but that does not give them a free pass to belittle those around them by making them feel inadequate, stupid or not good enough. I have utmost respect for these people and will listen to them and learn from them all day as long as they are humble, caring and act like human beings!
But, on the flip side, arrogance and superiority will shut me down faster than Casper the friendly ghost can say “Boo”.
In life we are all fighting an uphill battle. This act of belittling is something that is unnecessary and ridiculous, to be honest. We all need to put on our big boy and girl panties and man up! Be proud of your successes, but treat others as you would want to be treated. When did we lose this golden rule of life?
Utilize what you have been blessed with or have worked hard for, but do it in a nice manner, please.
We all can learn, grow and develop from each other. We all have so many amazing talents, experiences and knowledge that we can share, but for the love, be humble about it... especially, be friendly about it. This world is hateful enough; we don’t need those that want to feel superior adding to the mix.
Respect must be earned. It cannot be achieved by simply being mean and flexing the talent that God blessed you with. True respect lies in loving others, caring for others, and if that involves teaching, then by all means, that is awesome! I am here to learn; in fact, I love to learn from those wiser and more knowledgeable than me.
Utilize what you have been blessed with or have worked hard for, but do it in a nice manner, please. We all feel stupid, small and inadequate at times, so we don’t need others to expound these feelings daily! Learn to laugh at the stupid moments. Learn from these moments, and do not feel the need to pass along those feelings to those around you... just so you feel big and mighty and maybe not so small and stupid.
We all are imperfect, inadequate individuals just trying to make it through this thing we call life. Be kind to those fighting around you, help them, care for them and for the love...
Let's Love More!
Alissa Nelms
