Today I woke up with my mind turning and starting to get overwhelmed with all the pressures that this time of the year brings, along with just doing the day to day “to do” lists that need to be accomplished. Now, I am not one that obsesses over the holiday. We are simple and don’t get our panties in a ruffle, in most cases. However, I still allow the worldly pressures of this time of the year to creep in, and it is something that I constantly must fight to keep at bay.
This time of the year is my favorite. It is a time that should be enjoyed and savored. A time of year that should be dedicated to being thankful for what we have, the relationships we hold, and just overall giving, caring and thankfulness for all that we have been given and all that we are blessed with.
So, why do we snap on the ball and chain and allow ourselves to be consumed with stress and people pleasing?
I honestly have no idea, it does not make sense to me. We have drifted so far from what this time represents that it makes me a little sick to my stomach just thinking about it. The pressure that we place on ourselves and the overwhelming feeling that we must "get it all done” kills our joy and happiness that this time of the year has to offer. We are imprisoned by the stress and panic; it's no wonder why so many of us get sick during this time of the year. The stress affects both our mental health and physical health.
Honestly, I find it insane how commercialized that we have made these last three months of the year… I mean really?!! Do we need to dedicate 20 aisles to one holiday? We waste our money on frivolous things. Are there not enough people that are starving, hurting or have absolutely nothing who we could help, instead?
Just love those around you, give to those truly in need, and take in all of the magical moments of the holiday.
We are a blessed society and the stress that we place on ourselves is absolute insanity! Honestly, what would happen if we said no to something during the holidays? Will our world crumble and fall apart? I honestly doubt it, but definitely a realistic question to ask ourselves as we enter into this warp zone time of year.
So, this morning I had to stop my head, take a deep breath in and remind myself of what I know to be truly important. I am just one person and can only do so much, and there is absolutely no reason to stress myself out over the little things. Taking one day at a time, one task at a time, while keeping all things in perspective is what I feel is the most important to me.
Slow down... life is too short, smell the roses! When we feel overwhelmed, remember that you do not have to do it all. You are not required to attend every party, event or function. You do not have to buy everyone, including the mailman, a gift. Just love those around you, give to those truly in need, and take in all of the magical moments of the holiday.
Take a nice deep breath in... now exhale, write down what is truly important to you during this holiday season, and don’t forget the reason for the season. Love more, care more and allow your heart to give in meaningful ways - not just materialistically!
Let's Love More!
Alissa Nelms
